“Our relationship had been tense at times, and we lacked ideas and methods of resolving conflict, especially around parenting. We have gained insight into each other’s personality and developed a new playbook that will help us grow as a couple. I think coaching has helped us be less selfish. In turn, we’ve gained perspective and can remember to slow down in difficult moments and pray about those situations.” ~ Luke, Battle Ground, WA, March 2024
Luke and Amber completed training with MarriageTeam in March of 2024. We recently sat down with Luke and asked him to share his experience with marriage coaching. Below are our key takeaways from our interview with Luke.
How Coaching Impacted Our Relationship – In Our Own Words
Before coaching, we felt stuck in our routine. With four kids and busy schedules, we weren’t on the same page in our parenting or communication. We weren’t in crisis, but we also hadn’t been intentional about investing in our relationship.
How Coaching Helped Us:
- We communicate better. We’ve learned to express our expectations more clearly and ask more questions rather than making assumptions.
- We see ourselves as a team again. We always believed we were a team, but coaching helped us refocus on working together toward shared goals.
- We handle conflict differently. We’re more mindful of how we model conflict resolution for our kids, showing them humility and the importance of forgiveness.
- We are more intentional in our marriage. Coaching helped us prioritize our relationship—checking in daily for 10-15 minutes and making date nights more consistent, even if it’s just once a month.
- We use practical tools. The “Play of the Week” has given us simple ways to encourage each other and be intentional about our connection.
- We became less selfish. Coaching gave us an outside perspective, helping us realize that our way of thinking isn’t always the only or right way.
- We appreciated the authenticity of our coaches. Hearing their personal struggles and experiences made us feel like we weren’t alone and that they were truly invested in helping us succeed.
- We now see coaching as a valuable resource. No matter where a couple is in their relationship—whether married or not—coaching can provide clarity, improve communication, and strengthen intimacy and parenting.
Biggest Takeaway: Coaching helped us think differently about communication and reinforced that no matter what happens, we are in this together.
