Personal Evaluation Checklist

Name: MarriageTeam
Address: 1400 NE 136th Ave UNIT 201, Vancouver, WA, 98684
Telephone: (360)450-6042
Price range: $

Many wonder if marriage coaching is the right fit and how it’s different than counseling.

Counseling is a professional relationship that empowers diverse individuals to accomplish mental health, wellness and other goals. It tends to focus on the how the past is affecting the present with the goal of healing and creating health. The counselor is considered the expert.

MarriageTeam coaching focuses on the present and helps you move forward to create the future you desire. It presents relationship skills and helps you apply them for better communication, quicker conflict resolution and improved relationships. You are the expert on your relationship and coaches will not tell you what to do, but will help you figure out what you want and are willing to do and create a plan to do it

Is coaching a good fit for us?

(Please answer all questions)

1. Is a mental health diagnosis that is not being effectively treated the problem?

Yes

Contact your medical or mental health provider and explain that the prescribed treatment does not seem to be working. Coaching will not help mental health issues that are not being effectively treated.

2. Are either of you currently clinically depressed?

Yes

Unsure

If your answer is Yes, Coaching will be much less effective if one of you is depressed and we ask that you see a health care provider to see if there is an underlying issue that will hinder your coaching progress.

If your answer is Unsure, the Beck Depression Inventory is a self-assessment tool that you can download to gain insight into your situation. If Depression is indicated, you should talk with your health care provider. Coaching will be much less effective if one of you is depressed and that is we ask that you see a health care provider to see if there is an underlying issue that will hinder your coaching progress.

3. Are addictions (drugs, alcohol, gambling, sex, etc) part of the problem?

Yes

Coaching will not work when active addictions are driving the behavior. When the addicted spouse seeks change (Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), NA, GA, or other effective program) and has been in the program for a month, we can start coaching. These programs indicate that the spouse is serious about trying to change and coaching is all about helping a person change.

4. Are there affairs or on-going sexual infidelity in your relationship?

Yes

Coaching will not work when individuals are actively involved in an affair. If your spouse is willing to totally stop seeing, talking to, or communicating with the other person while you are in coaching, coaching may help you repair your relationship.

5. Are you in an abusive relationship? (Unsure, we can help you figure it out)

Yes

Unsure

Many difficult situations are not abusive in nature. Characteristics of abuse include: imbalance of power and control; consistent lack of mutuality; lack of freedom to speak up, have own opinions, disagree or make own choices; consistent indifference to partner's needs, feelings, and thoughts; blame-shifting, minimizing and lack of responsibility for wrongs committed; attitude of entitlement; causing fear by intimidation, threatening harm to self or others; destruction of property; or forcing isolation from family or friends. If you are unsure, give us a call and we can help you sort it out.

Characteristics of abuse include: imbalance of power and control; consistent lack of mutuality; lack of freedom to speak up, have own opinions, disagree or make own choices; consistent indifference to partner's needs, feelings, and thoughts; blame-shifting, minimizing and lack of responsibility for wrongs committed; attitude of entitlement; causing fear by intimidation, threatening harm to self or others; destruction of property; or forcing isolation from family or friends.
If this is your situation, it is definitely un-coachable and you should consider professional help. Excellent resources to consider include:

National Hotline, https://www.thehotline.org/, 800.799.SAFE (7233)
Free Resources: https://leslievernick.com/free-resources/
Learn about what constitutes abuse: https://www.youtube.com/user/leslievernick to watch Leslie Vernick Videos
Group coaching every week for $25/month. https://flyingfreenow.com

For more information, call (360)450-6042 or info@marriageteam.org

Have you . . .

6. Found that counseling did not help?

Yes

7. Grown tired of the same old fights?

Yes

8. Tried retreats, books, seminars, etc with few results?

Yes

9. Talked or thought about divorce or even in the process?

Yes

10. Are currently separated?

Yes

11. Thought you just might be stuck for the rest of your life?

Yes

12. Lost hope that anything will really work for you?

Yes

If you answered “Yes” to one or more of these questions (6-12), MarriageTeam can help! It has helped hundreds of couples just like you. Don’t believe the lie your relationship can’t change!
Your coaches will work with you through a proven process.
There is a money back guarantee: If you believe you did get your money’s worth from your coaching experience, notify MarriageTeam in writing and we refund everything except the inventory and materials ($85).
What do you have to lose?

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For more information, call (360)450-6042 or info@marriageteam.org