Step #1 to Better Intimacy: Random Acts of Kindness

Did you know that there are eight types of intimacy in personal relationships?  In today’s world “intimacy” is tethered to “sexual intimacy,” often to the exclusion of the seven other types.  Marital intimacy grows deeper through all eight types of intimacy ~ social, intellectual, emotional, affectional, physical, aesthetic, sexual and spiritual intimacy.  Knowing and nurturing our partner’s most important types of intimacy can be a game changer.

Throughout our day, a simple “Random Act of Kindness” (RAK) can be the perfect gateway to improve our intimacy. So often we think of RAK’s as something we do for a stranger or someone outside our household. 

Today, on Random Acts of Kindness Day, why don’t we bring it home? RAKs take many forms and can be as simple as sharing tenderness, sharing something beautiful, or expressing our deepest thoughts and feelings about our spouse. It is easy to do, does not necessarily cost anything except a bit of forethought and of course, some genuine kindness.

If you are at a loss for how to start, take our “Acts of Kindness BINGO Challenge”.  Spend time exploring which types of intimacy are most important to your sweetheart – You may be surprised!  Select RAKs that speak to your teammate’s most important types of intimacy. Even the simplest RAKs “count” because, in the words of Aesop, the ancient Greek philosopher, “No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”

Al and Autumn Ray

One of my wife’s love languages is time spent together. So I will randomly go into the living room and sit, call her in and just talk. Or sometimes we take spur-of-the-moment “Sunday Drives” on any day of the week. Christ has told us to look out for another’s interests. Random acts of kindness are some of the ways we do it, as a couple in love who value each other.”

~ Peter and Joy Durkee

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Spread love everywhere you go. Let no one ever come to you without leaving happier.

Mother Teresa